international womens day today
dont forget to include trans women, disabled women, women of colour, non-binary people who partly identify as women, queer women, all women.all of them. i don’t want to see any derailed posts today about shit like “international mens day” it doesnt fly like that
TRANS WOMEN ROLES FOR TRANS WOMEN ONLY!!!!!!
And more trans women playing cis women too.
How about we base who gets a role based on how well they act…
how about we actively push back against transphobic casting standards instead of pretending everyone’s on a level playing field with the exception of acting ability
Oh my god I love Nani forever.
if someone has a fucking phobia of something don’t be an asshole and play with their fear for your own amusementUNLESS IT’S HOMOPHOBIA. THEN YOU ACT AS NON-STRAIGHT AS YOU CAN AND WATCH THE BLOOD POUR OUT OF THEIR EYES
ok this picture really bothers me
not every parent is a stereotyping, judgmental, prick
please stop endorsing the idea that they are
yes, some parents are shitty, but some are wonderful and caring and supportive and you need to recognize that
That’s true, but this is a pretty common paradigm for parents to fall into. Mine did, and despite 7 years of telling them something was wrong, I got the second column back as answers. After I got an official diagnosis, I got the second column CONSTANTLY from them. It wasn’t until I ended up in the emergency room after a SEVERE panic attack (after I had already moved out for college and sought the psychiatric help that I’d needed for YEARS, despite their protests) that they even began to take me seriously. Way too little, way too late. I will NEVER trust then with mental health again.
So pictures like this are important. They let kids (and adults) know that just because their parents refuse to validate them, does not mean their problems are invalid. Meanwhile, it reminds the future generation of parents—read: a lot of the young people on tumblr—to be mindful of their kids and actually LISTEN when they come to them with problems.
I get that this can be frustrating, especially if you’re a supportive parent and/or had supportive parents. But a picture like this, simple as it seems, can mean the world for those of us whose parents refused to listen.
I have zero sympathy for people upset about this. Good for you your parents didn’t suck who fucking cares
What I want to know is, why is it important to recognize that some parents are good? For whom is it important? What good does that do for anyone when the world is full of abusive, ableist, homophobic, transphobic parents who are kicking their kids out on the streets to die because they don’t fit their ideal of a good kid?
There is a specific context in which it’s important to know that good people exist, and that’s when you’re drowning in despair from the horribleness of the world. Speaking up about ableism parents perpetuate on their kids is NOT the time and place to scold everyone about saying bad things about parents when ‘they’re not all like that.’
I had great parents but they were ignorant about mental health, have ableist beliefs and were desperate to understand what was happening but assume the worse of my motives.
What bothers me about this is that chart is that psychiatrists and people who work in mental health very frequently have horrible beliefs about their patients, they still think a lot is about attention seeking and on purpose, ableism is very strong in mental health professions and my psychiatrists actually made my parents think worse about me, both about my mental illness and about my autism. There are some good psychiatrists but most are not and they don’t try to listen to people who live with mental illness so they assume worse motivations and wrong reasons.
Both groups can be horrible people with those beliefs or just completely ignorant and trying they best but unable to leave their ignorance behind. The parents side should be called mental health worker because that’s what most think about mental illness.
I saw another reblog of this, and was going to say some of the same things. Parents who do harm should really not get a pass, but neither should professionals who really ought to know better.
I have also seen cases where bad professionals seemed to be trying to tell the bad parents who were paying for their services what they thought those bad and often abusive parents wanted to hear. But that is far from the only scenario possible there. I have also been in the position where my parents were encouraged to view my supposed problems in a much more negative and ableist light, by the very people who were supposed to be helping. Nobody gets a pass on treating people like that.
bolded for emphasis, and applicable to all instances of ‘but we’re not all like that!’